From the first time I heard this song ,it's words resonated in my soul.
"You used to , you used to."
Well Aubrey , things change and people grow. Whether that be together or apart , it happens and it is inevitable.
When I heard the words , I thought that maybe he was in disbelief and innocently missed her presence .
As it played time and time again , I couldn't help but further analyze the story that the lyrics told.
Drake goes on and on about how he can't believe that home girl has moved on to live her life and luxuriously might I add. In the bridge , he talks about how he wonders if she is now rolling weed or rolling over next to the new guy in her life (as if she can't live happily and comfortably without a man providing for her) simply implying that she's a hoe and whatever or whoever she is doing is providing her with these luxuries. I suspect that perhaps she'd been so tied into his life , as we all tend to fall victim of when we fall so deeply in love , that these things such as "running out of pages in your passport" were only dreams. Kudos .
Drake paints a good girl gone bad image , conveniently playing the victim while all at the same time making girls who wish to live freely , feel horrible about their growth. How dare they live their lives to the fullest.
"Started wearing less and goin' out more
Glasses of champagne out on the dance floor
Hangin' with some girls I've never seen before"
Translation : You started to wear clothes that you always wanted to wear but never did because I was that " where you think you going" controlling type. You KNOW those types. The ones that say things like " You not wearing that" and you subtly smile thinking that it's cute? Yes. That type.
Oh you got friends? When we were together you didn't really have those because I've manipulated you and LET you know who your real friends were ...so these new girls ? They don't mean much .
"You don't need no one else
You don't need nobody else, no"
Translation : Self explanatory
"Why you always touching road
Used to always stay at home, be a good girl
You was in the zone"
Translation : Now I can't keep tabs on you ..Stay home like you used to . Implying that being a homebody makes her a better person and that this new life can't mean well. How dare she go out and enjoy life. smh.
"You should just be yourself
Right now, you're someone else"
Translation : I know the real you and this isn't it . You changed and it's for the worse . I cannot accept this "new" you because it is not aligned with the you that I used to walk all over.
"You used to , you used to " - I hate to be the bearer of bad news but we can't serve as doormats forever. At some point your ego will take the backseat to all of the adventure and opportunity and that doesn't make you or me any less of a good person.
I am that girl who thought that selfishness was a sin and that in considering others , I would always put myself on the back burner. Nope.
Excuse my rant , I just needed to let you know that before you allow yourself and your aspirations in life to be manipulated by someone because #masculinitysofragile...Remember , Never Stop Evolving.
Pop those bottles.
Make New Friends.
Invest in yourself.
Make them wonder.