I’ve sat on this topic for a while now, and I pondered if I should address the issue, Sorrow that is. We all fall short at times, but I think that reflection on my own mistakes in this area is what keeps me up at night. Somehow we still expect that apology from that old lover who hurt us, the friend who betrayed us, the parent who left us, that cousin who stole from us and even greater, ourselves. We live Chock full O’ regret because we can’t wrap our minds around the fact that we are human and the happenings of our life (..I’ll address this later) are essential in our growth.
Over time I’ve found that forgiving without apology is imperative in living a happy life. Not being a Sorry Sally has kept me a-smiling.
Seriously, how sincere is that apology from that old lover if they don’t see what they did wrong? I can remember the days where I would do and say things and my parents would tell me that apologizing would make it all better. Looking back, I wish I would have spared some of the “sorry's” that I gave because they were just that …sorry. Realistically, if words are all that are needed to mend whatever was broken than you were bound to forgive anyway. Now, I don’t want you to go out saying things all willy nilly thinking that you are hereby justified. BUT – this is a lesson that we could all learn. 1. Say what you mean and mean what you said 2. When someone shows you their true colors…BELIEVE THAT! Knowing these things have saved me so much time and effort. “You weren’t potty-trained to sit in your own sh** “- Her
I tweeted this before and I’ll say it one million times again, pop the balloons at your pity party. The popping sound has been the soundtrack to my life as of late , every time I’d reflect on the happenings in my life , I became overwhelmed with “well maybe if I had” or “ damn I shouldn’t have”. Then...POP The reality of it all is that these "happenings" are not mistakes because I was well aware of what I was doing or saying when it was done, I will not be sorry and regrets are for people who haven’t taken from every experience. If you’re going to allow life to take you on a roller-coaster you may as well enjoy the ride…that’s where I am at almost 21 years old. There are so many things that I used to wish I could undo and unsay, silly things. Things that some would say “no big deal “to. I would sit in the chair of misery like it was my throne. It wasn’t until I had my aha moment that I stopped making and accepting apologies that meant absolutely nothing because they were made on the basis of “you said it was wrong so let me shut you up”. The truth hurts. I was extremely disgusted one time when I ALMOST apologized for something that I meant, especially knowing that we as women apologize for damn near everything anyway. Stop being sorry and live on purpose today.