It's amazing how much I've learned from growing up in a church ....
Growing up in a church , Joy night was always very difficult to understand. I couldn't seem to comprehend why our parents made it a point to pack us up and bring us out to mid-week services . We would all sit in the back of the church doing our homework , making noise until one of the elders came to snatch us up and file into the sanctuary once it was time for the youth to recite their scripture of the week. As I got older and the homework became much lighter , I began to join the adults behind the wooden door.
Service would always begin with prayer followed by praise and worship , during which someone from the crowd would either start the song that best described their mood or someone would give their testimony. One by one , people stood up and gave their weekly report of how awesome God is and what he'd done for them. I never really thought too much of it , why shouldn't people be proud and share their breakthroughs and experiences ?
Today , I find myself asking this question in a world where pride has been misconstrued and mistaken for arrogance , while sharing the news of your most recent blessings is being "boastful".
Humble Thyself. When we ask others to do so , are we asking them because we are threatened or do we innocently want them to understand that what is given can easily be taken away out of concern? I had to find an answer to my own questions , so I looked up the definition of " to humble" :
lower (someone) in dignity or importance.
Terrible. Is this what we are asking of someone when implying that they humble themselves? Are we so intimidated that we demand others to dim their light ? Sure , there are times where people become overbearing and rude . However , we must do a better job at addressing these things and spend less time being offended by the success and happiness of others. Behind every success , there are triumphs that had to be won so who are we to stop the celebration? We must stop forcing this "crippling humility" , as Author SaVonne Anderson so eloquently put in her recent work The Womanifesto.
"There are people who I have considered my close friends that don’t cheer when I accomplish something. There are people who have told me that I think I’m better than them because of my success or accomplishments.[......], I assumed that maybe I really was acting “like I’m better” or maybe I was being too sensitive about them not supporting me. For a long time, I was adamant about not being recognized for my accomplishments. I did everything I could to keep the attention off of me in all settings. But when you’re destined for greatness, it’s impossible to dim your light."
As I read this excerpt , I asked myself , How is humility crippling?
I've come to the conclusion that anything and anyone that does not add on to your self confidence or causes you to behave with undeserving diffidence , should be trimmed from your garden so that you can continue to blossom.
In all that you do , let your light shine and do not be hushed . Always be mindful that your story , your success and your pride can motivate and inspire the lives of others . When there is light in a dark place , you cannot help but to see it !
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