No one wants to be friends with a b*tch - My 8th Grade Spanish Instructor
I still laugh when I say that aloud , because at the time I thought that it was the harshest thing to say to a 13 year old girl , but it served its purpose in time. I was such a sourpuss . I assumed that I didn't need new friends and though the ones that I was "b*tchie" (i guess) towards proved me right , my cold heart could have held me back from experience. I was in the eighth grade and new to my middle school so I intended to stay clear of all signs of trouble. All of the drama that existed was among the girls and I didn't really want parts so that was just my attitude. The problem was that it showed and that got me caught up quicker than being in the mix. My attempts to be drama-free swiftly appeared to me "thinking I was better" to these girls , thus the conversation between my Senorita Melendez and I .
Adult Michelle get's it now . There's nothing that you can do or say that will mask or tune up your character , it shows . It wasn't until yesterday that I fully understood this concept though . As I scrolled my facebook timeline , I came across a video that my mentor shared of one of Pastor Sheryl Brady's message. I can always appreciate a good sermon that comes with a life lesson and this was definitely one of them. She began to speak to everyone about image consultants and how they are literally a click away thanks to the internet . However , we can't seem to find character consultants. We focus on our outward appearance and who our Instagram's and Twitter Accounts make us . It's amazing the strategies that we follow to be the perfect cup of tea .
This message hit hard because I realized that I'd been idolizing people ; bloggers , actresses , musicians , and common fold , who had a team that works to create the image of them that I see. Pastor Brady mentioned that we buy into things/people only to see them for what they really are , image is what we make that to be but character is what they really are. It broke me down something serious , but it made me remember why its important to be your (whole) self in all that you do , and do everything with a pure heart and good intentions. I used to laugh when people said that things like love gives you a glow until I seen it for myself. When you are truly in love with something or someone , when you are dedicated to a project or a cause , your passion and commitment will show for itself.
As I've grown from a girl to a woman , I have gone from one extreme to the next trying to create the perfect me in my pictures , trying to get involved in things that would make me "look" better on paper , and all. It wasn't for me and it showed . When I accepted Michelle for who she was - and all her craziness , I began to do things with love and compassion . There were things that I was told not to do and not to say because they weren't socially acceptable in some places , but they got me exactly where I needed to be. Where was that ? Among like-minded and goal oriented people who are not plagued by group think. I've become a happier me since I realized that a sound mind and spirit would get me further in life than an illusion of a flawless life. I hope that this video resonates in your soul the way it did mine. I am forever reminded that selfies are but a glimpse of who you are , but what that soul do - boo?