I'm no relationship analyst or professional , at all , for that matter. However , I will not downplay the experience that I've had , even at just under 21 years old. My long-time childhood sweetheart and I have seen some particularly interesting ...struggles and well , they've taught me tons about relationships as a whole and how to contrast and take on different perspectives . Prior to opening my computer , I had a very soothing conversation with my brother who assured me that my thoughts on this topic are not just some egotistical and biased assumptions about love. In fact , I think that it's on everyone's mind's and very few are willing to say it. Here goes:
We've all wanted the love that says , "you are my everything" with gestures as well as words. We also want that you-make-me-better love that Fab talks about when he says , "your boy a good look but she my better half" . I wanted it to , no front , but when I began to see how destructive that could be to both parties , i retracted and analyzed this theory further.
In Christianity , we are taught that Eve was created from the Rib of Adam , making her apart of him. So , where do we come up with these calculations of half and half when a rib is an entire organ ? Follow me.
In part , it sounds joyous , to complete someone and be their everything. It also has the other side where women like me see this as an evil ploy , not created for long term relationships. Take for example , the man who has success , healthy relationships , and financial flexibility. He is , to the societal norm , considered well off and "the full package " . He finds a woman who has never had the time to concern herself with ..herself because life has happened. She finds comfort in his money , family and success , leaving her as what I would call "an actor in his production". To some , this may be what love is , making up for what another lacks.
However , to me , true love is allowing the other to grow mentally , physically , and spiritually strong . I've witnessed the decay of relationships that were built on the idea that it is okay to bring yourself to someone undone. Now , I do believe that in time we continuously grow , but as Warsan Shire has said "you can't make homes out of human beings". Are you picking up what im putting down ? Be sure to feed yourself , nourish yourself and water yourself because you cannot possibly be a great mother/wife father/husband without first being the very best at being..you.
Never Stop Evolving. . fo' nuffin.